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October 19th, 2012 (10:44 am)
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Crossposted from tumblr because I'm sort of bursting inside with things I want to tell someone:

Did you ever have a fetish that was so strange and possibly sick that you were afraid to tell anyone, and you find a couple of people online with the same fetish, but they’re kind of creepy guys, and you wonder if maybe you’d be seen as creepy if you told anyone, and you haven’t even explained it fully to your husband because you’re not sure he’d understand, and you aren’t sure where the fetish came from, but you’ve had it since you were a child, and it’s affected forever the way you watch movies and TV and read books, and you’re still a little afraid people can see your reaction and will wonder about you but are too polite to ask, so they’ll just edge away from you, and you really want to tell someone?

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Posted by: Loadhan (loadhan)
Posted at: October 19th, 2012 04:21 pm (UTC)
Coati

First... to the answer question, yes to a degree with probably different levels, details, and reactions.

Second - you only found two people on the Internet with a particular fetish? I'd imagine there are, like you, others who have not posted said fetish online and some of them are probably not creepy.

Third; chances are most of a fetish we might feel is worrisome or embarrassing. So we all have these. And many of us might just be extra paranoid, that if they were public knowledge no one would bat an eye.

Four: as my girlfriend says, "There's no culpable fantasy." If there was, we fiction writers would be serious trouble (I've probably killed billions...)! Higher that freedom of speech, freedom of expression, should be freedom of thought. But just like those first two, our rights only extend as far as we do. If your fetish acted out would be criminal or harmful, don't act it out.

Of course, it is understandable to worry what people will think. I've gotten over most of my ability to be embarrassed by what others think compared to my childhood but it's still there. My only advice for that is, if you need to tell someone, make sure you are ready for the reaction and be able to still stand tall and respect yourself. Who you are to yourself is more important than who you are to each other.

And most loved ones will still accept you; we don't have to like or agree with everything about another person to still accept them. Heck, I think my best friend has gone from being just as liberal as I am to very conservative but I still love him and he's still my best friend (even if I don't understand that part of him anymore).

I hope I helped somewhat. :)

Posted by: Thene (athenemiranda)
Posted at: October 21st, 2012 02:01 am (UTC)
innacurate genetics

oh god, back in like August I was writing a scene about An Awful Thing That Villains Do Because They're Villains and started getting inexplicably turned on by it. :( I had no idea about this particular fetish previously and I do NOT feel great about it, and haven't more than vaguely alluded it to anyone. :/ Such is life. I didn't have any childhood kinks, oddly enough - none of mine showed up until I was 17.

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